If you are ready to get a divorce but holding off on filing because the thought of going to court is too overwhelming, you might feel encouraged to learn that there are other ways of ending your marriage besides having a judge make all the decisions. Uncontested divorce is becoming more popular for divorcing couples in Colorado and elsewhere.
Mediation is a particularly effective form of uncontested divorce. During the mediation process, you and your spouse will attend sessions with a certified mediator or family law attorney with mediation experience. In many cases, the attorney also has a certifications in mediation to better serve his or her clients. Mediation may be over in as few as one or two sessions, although six to 10 sessions are normal for most couples.
Mediation has numerous benefits, including the following:
- Being typically much more cost-effective than a litigated divorce
- Producing less stress and contention than going to court, especially for children
- Teaching you and your spouse negotiation and communication techniques, which can be beneficial when co-parenting your children
- Giving you privacy, unlike a litigated divorce, which becomes a matter of public record
There are several factors that may give you an idea whether mediation may be a good option for you. It is normal for you and your spouse to have hard feelings about your divorce, even anger. However, if you are able to set aside bad feelings during mediation sessions and treat each other with respect and open-mindedness, mediation may be preferable to litigation. If your spouse was abusive, if substance abuse was present during your marriage, or if you suspect your spouse would use emotional or financial tactics against you, litigation may be the better choice. It is usually a good idea to speak with a family law attorney about your divorce options before going forward with your divorce.